Ok, I give in.

[puddingcat]

I have Non-Specific Worry Syndrome.

However hard I poke at any one of the many little worries, it isn't a big deal (not even Mum, since the prognosis is so good). But the combination of them all - well, that's scary.

I can deal with one active thing, and one waiting, at the moment. The active thing is going home & to Kent for a friend's wedding this weekend (though I don't know what to wear yet). The waiting thing is the OU assignment due in on 3 June.

Except there's also the cancer Thing, the anniversary of crappiness Thing, the Cambridge next weekend Thing, the going back to work Thing, the total lack of money Thing... A couple of months ago, I was pootling along nicely from one Thing to the next - and now it's all become overwhelming. I know I don't have to worry about them all at once (and some of them shouldn't be worrying at all), but knowing they're there and Looming at me is sending me towards panic ctations.

Wibble.

Comments

[professoryaffle.livejournal.com]

the cambridge thing will be fun, you well get to see lots of people you like, have nice food and wine and wander round a fair full of hippys and pretty things

Lots of little things can more overwhelming than one big thing but all you can do it try and get on with it and hope it will all turn out well in the end

hope you are good

[puddingcat.livejournal.com]

Ah but, you see, it'll be 2 consecutive weekends away. There'll be 10 hours of driving. My "pretty things" tend to be corsets, which aren't very hippy and which I can't afford any more of. And I'm scared of having a meltdown in public.

[professoryaffle.livejournal.com]

There are lots of other pretty things which may be more suitable in cambridge as oppose to at the fair, There is a very nice jewelery stall on cambridge market on the sunday where I bought the necklaces I got Nicola for her birthday

the driving and the two consecutive weekends away unfortunately I can do nothing about I keep trying to convince rms to invent site to site transportation but he says its impossible so you can blame him for that

the meltdown all I can try and do is reassure you, most of the people coming are nice and laid back so you will probably be fine but if not our house is less than 5 minutes from where most of the festivities are so if you need some more alone time it won't be difficult to get

Suggestion

[annwfyn.livejournal.com]

Try writing all these problems down in bullet point form. Possibly find someone you trust and get them to go through them with you.

Work out if there is something you can do about things, try and break them down into manageable chunks.

*hugs*

I don't know if that will help. I do know that you do have a lot on your plate, and most people would be in a slightly bad head space atm. Am thinking of you.

[redshira.livejournal.com]

Cambridge next weekend? As in, the place where I will also be? It'd be lovely to see you.

[puddingcat.livejournal.com]

Oooh, yes! I'm staying at friends' and investigating Strawberry Fair for the first time. Meeting up would be great :)

[redshira.livejournal.com]

Oooh. I'm investigating Strawberry Fair for the first time too. :) Am going with my blokemanshapething royan, who has been before.
You and I can cower away in a quietish corner if it all gets too much.

[puddingcat.livejournal.com]

O.o

You know royan?

So do I...

[redshira.livejournal.com]

I'm ever so slightly insanely in lovevery much involved with him, so yeah, I'd say I know him :)

[karohemd.livejournal.com]

The Strawberry Fair will be fun.
Best clothes advice: layers as the weather sometimes plays havoc from rainstorms to blistering heat, sturdy boots or at least flat shoes as Midsummer Common isn't exactly a park and a hat is a good idea, too, as there isn't much shade.
Bring an empty stomach as there's usually lots of wonderful food available (mmm, Jamaican goat curry).
Give us a ring when you're there and we can meet up. I'll probably be around early as I want to try and catch some of the parade this year.

[puddingcat.livejournal.com]

Sure. I'm driving down on the Friday and will be doing the Fair on Saturday then Cambridge stuff on the Sunday. I'll keep you posted with my movements as they change!

[riksowden.livejournal.com]

Stop, put the kettle on, have a cuppa, and relax...

[zenmeisterin.livejournal.com]

Non-Specific Worry Syndrome... I have to remember that description ;-) It certainly beats 'mind-numbing nebulous terror which can only be pinned down in a few specific cases to things that really ought not to be engendering quite this much panic' which I've been trying to shorten.

Sorry to hear about your mother but hopefully it'll all go well. Depressingly increasing occurence...

[faerierhona.livejournal.com]

why not put aside a bit of time to sowrry specifically about each of those. Go through them bit by bit, decide what can be resolved (such as what to wear, for example) what can't be and categorise? I know that helps with me

[tooth-fairy.livejournal.com]

eeek

hugs

[vulgarcriminal.livejournal.com]

come to ara with us tonight, sounds like you could do with an evening of drunkeness :)

[puddingcat.livejournal.com]

Bah, driving home tonight for Mum stuff & friend's wedding. Next month, unless asteroids hit Manchester or the dinosaurs come back!

[nannyo.livejournal.com]

don't fret about Cambridge, there you know all the people there (and even like some of them!), and Mup and Liz will be doing there best not to have crowd meltdown by hiding in a pub somewhere, or possibly at Wez's house, so you are welcome to go and hide with them.

I am happy to sit and chat randomly in a corner out of the way, or just let you have some calm space.

I am having the non-specific worry thing about work, so to avoid dealing with it, I seem to be avoiding work. This is not ideal, so I will herd myself towards the first small thing. I think your way of coping with two things at once is a good one.

To lessen your worry about July, if you don't want to drive to Norfolk, come to us on the train, and we'll drive you down. It's more fun to drive through the wastelands of the fens with a bunch of people in the car anyway. Did you get my text that I had made a mistake with the date? It's the second weekend in July, not the first. Hope you are still able to come.
N.

[professoryaffle.livejournal.com]

ooh does this mean Jenny is joining us in Norfolk, cool must find out if Wez or Minspi need lifts for that

[nannyo.livejournal.com]

THat's the aim. I think I have arranged to pick minspi up from Kings Lynn too, as it's an easy train journey for him, but the Wezmoleo will almost definitely need a lift!
N.

[professoryaffle.livejournal.com]

cool I just though given most kings lynn trains go through cambridge on their way it might be as easy for us as for you

[puddingcat.livejournal.com]

Can I wait til June's half done? Then I'll have most of the above Thigns sorted and can think about the next set.

[nannyo.livejournal.com]

wait until the day before if you like... I deal well with last minute plans. Didn't mean to add to the pile :)
N.

Non-specific worry syndrome

[dragonmamma.livejournal.com]

Love the term!!
I have a friend who says "there is no such thing as a problem, only unpalateable facts" this is true.
Remember that todays problems are all gone by tomorrow (when they are replaced by the next set)
Punch a teddy bear or two.
Sometimes if it all gets too much its better to say "stuff it" and not deal with any of it until tomorrow.
Finally we all love you and things will get better. In fact some of those worries will be over by the time you read this.

[bursargirl.livejournal.com]

Hmmm, you are going to Cambridge next weekend..?