A Wheely Good Weekend.

[puddingcat]

I spent mopst of Friday through to a bit of Monday in Norfolk with (takes deep breath) nurse_liz, kowt and brother, nannyo, Mup, professoryaffle, rms, dr_wez, minspi, Stubeedoobeedoo, and geekpsi. Nobody attempted murder or GBH, nobody drowned in the river, nobody threw a hissy fit, and nobody got lost. Not a bad holiday, really.

Cromer in January isn't recommended for a shopping trip, however. Although, having said that, I did get a couple of lovely necklaces; one red leaf (which I can't find on the Artyfax website), and one silver & pale green enamel one by Pilgrim.

Otehr than that, I ate lots (including fairy cakes made from Real Fairies), drank a bit (but less than I'd expected; I brought home half my beer & more than half my sake), made a tactical withdrawal from a jigsaw puzzle, learned how to play mahjongg (if not how to score it) and passed on the next few Saiyuki volumes to nannyo (who was amused as I was about the many varieties of "monkey" insults flying between the mahjongg players).

After dropping minspi at the station and finding lunch, dr_wez kindly informed me that I looked shattered, so I left him to his haircut and went home. Where Cleo was so happy to see me that she came downstairs and walked all over me, despite professoryaffle being in the room, never mind the house.

Then I slept for 2 hours. Mmmm, sleeeeep.

I have a few photos, which I shall upload once at home. For now, I'm trying to remember how to work, hoping my stuffy nose doesn't develop into a Real Cold, trying to avoid the Duo website (*glares* at daegaer and louiselux) and absently wondering how I can become more feminine. I want to be more feminine. How do I manage this without crossing the line into "crap"?

Comments

[nannyo.livejournal.com]

It's funny, cos I always think of you as being much more feminine than me. It's the pink beer I think!

Mind you, I've come away from the weekend desperate to not be thought of as everyone's mum so maybe it is just self-perception thingies...

[professoryaffle.livejournal.com]

nannyo you weren't terribly mumsy, just managed to come out with some classic lines over dinner

and for puddingcat you are feminine, you were skirts and heels and makeup, very feminine I wouldn't worry about not being girly

[puddingcat.livejournal.com]

Ah, but I feel like I'm wearing fancy dress when I do so! I want it to feel comfortable and natural, and not mind having to walk slowly because of wearing heels, and have people compliment me for looking pretty, not for having big boobs!

[professoryaffle.livejournal.com]

you are pretty and not because of your big boobs, they merely help your fabulous curvy figure

on the feminine clothing front you can either find skirts and pretty blouses you feel comfortable in or make a decision in your head that its not dressing up and stick to it, the first of these options is argubly easier though.

Maybe on the deportment front if you could find the time doing something like some sort of dance class might help as it might you more aware of how you hold yourself

[puddingcat.livejournal.com]

It's possibly a drawback to being a Strong Woman - though I do agree with Laura :)

Sadly, "feminine" in my head equates to those tiny wee girly girls who have long nails and understand hairstyles and can wear skinny jeans and have atching undies (matching sets, that is. Possibly matching my undies to my car is a good example of my problem.). Unfortunately, girly girls usually need looking after, which crosses into crapterritory.

[(Anonymous)]

I don't really understand why you want to be those things, because I think you are ace as you are.

[puddingcat.livejournal.com]

Um! Thank you, but who are you?

[nannyo.livejournal.com]

that was me, for some reason I got logged out.

[claire-wain.livejournal.com]

I think you can be as girly as you like - having your nails done or wearing matching underwear doesn't magically remove your knowledge of cars or Science. Okay, maybe you'd have trouble changing a wheel with acrylic fingernails on, but these things are not mutually exclusive. ;)

[puddingcat.livejournal.com]

Oooh, this is getting closer to the words I can't find!

I don't know how to be girly. You can only learn so much from teen magazines; some things have to be worked out with friends, or shown you by someone. I really do have no idea about a lot of stuff, and getting it worng more often than I get it right gets both expensive & uncomfortable!

[claire-wain.livejournal.com]

What I don't understand is a) what you think you're missing, and b) how finding it will help you. (Maybe that's what you don't understand either!) ;)

I am the least girly girl that I know. Okay, I know a lot about shoes and next to nothing about cars (I know how to replace a broken fan belt with a stocking, but I learnt that in the Guides!), but I've never plucked my eyebrows, I've never had a manicure, I've never had wax applied to any part of my body (okay, not in a hair-removal sense), I never wear make-up, and all my shoes are flat. I only wear a bra when I have to leave the house and I think someone might notice (which I appreciate is a luxury), and despite making skirts and dresses, I only ever wear trousers and t-shirts.

I would consider you to be way more girly than me, but I suspect the crux of the matter is that I don't think I can explain why.

[dr-wez.livejournal.com]

If you are anyone's mum, it must be the Spelling Bee and the Wrathful Pixie of Their/They're/There, surely?