I'm sorry, I can't imagine Gojyo without the sex appeal, it's totally alien to me. ^_~
I think you'd be really, really surprised by how people see you. Maybe it's different because we met online first, but then again we didn't know each other very well before squeefest, and the person I met there I found to be funny, smart, kind, capable, a strong woman in the best sense of the phrase, but in no way standoffish. You were very friendly to everyone - that's not the behaviour of an 'I don't need anybody' person. That's not to say that you're always like that, of course, but none of the other times we've met has made me think differently.
I also, honestly, think you do look pretty. Your eyes are gorgeous, and you have that cute nose thing going for you, and you don't look instantly crumpled in anything you wear (like wot I do).
I'm not just trying to be nice here, I just wanted to make the point that what you feel on the inside isn't necessarily what others think of you from the outside.
I think what tempers your independence, and has helped you to form relationships with people when I've seen you, is your kindness. You're genuinely compassionate and sympathetic towards people, and that's what overcomes the effects of your independence.
Also, you're not *always* independent. I remember watching the sea with you that night and for two strong independent women there was a fair bit of fragile co-bonding going on too, right?
In short: you're probably already far closer to what you want to be than you think you are. *hugs*
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I think you'd be really, really surprised by how people see you. Maybe it's different because we met online first, but then again we didn't know each other very well before squeefest, and the person I met there I found to be funny, smart, kind, capable, a strong woman in the best sense of the phrase, but in no way standoffish. You were very friendly to everyone - that's not the behaviour of an 'I don't need anybody' person. That's not to say that you're always like that, of course, but none of the other times we've met has made me think differently.
I also, honestly, think you do look pretty. Your eyes are gorgeous, and you have that cute nose thing going for you, and you don't look instantly crumpled in anything you wear (like wot I do).
I'm not just trying to be nice here, I just wanted to make the point that what you feel on the inside isn't necessarily what others think of you from the outside.
I think what tempers your independence, and has helped you to form relationships with people when I've seen you, is your kindness. You're genuinely compassionate and sympathetic towards people, and that's what overcomes the effects of your independence.
Also, you're not *always* independent. I remember watching the sea with you that night and for two strong independent women there was a fair bit of fragile co-bonding going on too, right?
In short: you're probably already far closer to what you want to be than you think you are. *hugs*