I saw :D I've read & loved, and will comment properly this evening :)

I think it's the difference between being the sort of person who gets offered help, because people like looking after her, and the sort of person who attracts needy clingers. Not that I want to be a needy clinger myself, but just that I don't want to be seen as a Totally Competent Person Who Needs Nothing And Nobody - and that has a link in my mind to being delicate & girly.