puddingcat | (no subject)

Mum's op seems to have gone well. I've just spoken to her & she's feeling uncomfortable but not in pain, and thoroughly spoiled (PHI >>> NHS). She's still very glad they took the whole lot off, and is hoping Dad will stop fretting now.

She sin't quite sure what she'll be doing in hospital for the 5-7 days she's expected to stay there. Once the drains are out (prob tomorrow, IIRC) it'll just be a case of sitting around, exercising her left arm & shoulder, and recuperating over salmon sandwiches.

It's all sort of stressful, but the stress seems to be at a distance. I can't imagine feeling a huge sense of relief when it's all over; possibly because it won't really feel like that until she's reached the 5-year stage. Maybe it's just becasue I can't affect anything to do with it, and there are more up close & personal things to fret about atm, with the added self-imposed guilt that Mums should be the Most Important Thing on my list of worries.

Bah. Life will be much simpler when I'm a Grumpy Old Man.

(Doesn't my icon remind you of Hamster in the pink Micra? My version's cuter, though.)

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Cuter AND scarier at the same time ;)

the added self-imposed guilt that Mums should be the Most Important Thing on my list of worries

Isn't family weird.

My mother can't cope with the notion that she isn't the most important thing in my life at all. I think it's a side-effect of having given up her own independence and identity; she let me take over her own life, so in her world I "owe" her my everlasting devotion.

To me it looks more like she made a duff decision about how to look after herself, really.

Cancer is always like that - it's this weird and slow process which you have to stick to the back of your mind a lot of the time or you'll go insane. I found that with Mum - it couldn't be the central focus of my life or I'd have lost my entire adolescence.

Best wishes all the same, and good luck for all of your family over the next five years.

Glad to hear that things went well. :)

Glad to hear it's going OK. All the very best for the healing process!

I've decided to start being a Grumpy Old Man early - I hope that's OK? It does mean I'll spend more on shotgun pellets, but on the plus side, I'll have time to get really good at gauging spread and follow-through, so I can be more efficient in my gnarled, foul-mouthed and malodourous dotage.

Recuperating over salmon sandwiches sounds sticky, but better than recuperating under them, or having to actually eat them.