And, hang on a minute, and please feel free to wap me if I'm taking this too seriously all of a sudden, but this suddenly rang alarm bells for me. Anyone worth their salt will recognise that you have needs as a person, regardless of your personal strength and competence. Everyone has needs. Isn't being 'feminine' to demonstrate that you need things a form of passive aggression? (Something which I can't imagine you being, for the record.)
There are ways of expressing vulnerability without surrendering your own strength. I suppose would argue that you don't have to be one (strong and competent) or the other (fragile and dependent) - we're all a mixture of both.
And in my experience, people who attract help on the grounds of their own apparent fragility actually more often than not attract the kind of person who's more about controlling them than truly supporting them. Support works best as equal exchange.
and now I'll shut up. Feel free to ignore my rabid ramblings!
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There are ways of expressing vulnerability without surrendering your own strength. I suppose would argue that you don't have to be one (strong and competent) or the other (fragile and dependent) - we're all a mixture of both.
And in my experience, people who attract help on the grounds of their own apparent fragility actually more often than not attract the kind of person who's more about controlling them than truly supporting them. Support works best as equal exchange.
and now I'll shut up. Feel free to ignore my rabid ramblings!